Heeding The Signs That You Might Have A Bad Marriage

By Herbert Zabala


If you or someone that you know has been through issues in their marriage, you know full well just how difficult things can get. For a lot of people dealing with relationship troubles with their spouse, it can take a whole lot out on you both emotionally and even physically with all of the stress that can take place.

There can be good days and bad days, which will make you feel as though you are on a sort of emotional roller coaster that has come off of the tracks.

Spouses who grew up in a home with a bad marriage often assume that this is the same everywhere. They see their parents go through their marriage without love just for the kids. This usually does not help the children at all.

They go through life having a false assumption of what a happy family should look like. Then, when they get into a shaky marriage, they just go with it and live with it.

Some of the signs of a marriage in trouble include the lack of affection, intimacy and communication. There may be even abuse physically and verbally. If either the husband or the wife make excuses to not be at home all the time, that is a signal that something is wrong. With no communication, problems cannot be solved. You have to recognize and accept what the problem is, then solve it together.

There are a few characteristics of bad marriages. These include a lack of intimacy and affection and strained communication. In very serious cases, there could also be verbal or physical abuse. If you find that you never want to go home after work, there is probably an issue with your marriage. Communication is key. If you don't speak to one another about what is transpiring, there is no way you are going to fix the situation.

People hang on to the hope that they can save their marriage. They wait years and years, then finally they seek therapy or counseling. More than fifty percent of couples who seek counseling are able to save their marriage.

Don't fall victim to the fallacy that you can save your marriage all on your own. If you do, you may wait until it is too late to see a counselor. Counselors are remarkably effective in helping couples suffering through a bad marriage; more than 50 percent of the time, couples that see a counselor wind up staying together.

A lot of people have a fantasy view that if there is love, it will solve all problems. Yes, keeping a positive attitude is good, but someone still need to point out the reality and where the marriage is weak. Then, you are able to separate what is real and what is not real. Love can be an infatuation that does not last.

Research has shown that couples in a bad marriage suffer more from poor health because of the additional stress. That is a danger. There is a higher risk of heart disease, depression, eating disorders and other ailments because they are constantly under stress and in an unhappy state. It can negatively affect a person's immune system and the body's ability to resist illnesses and disease.

Before you do anything else, though, make sure you really want to save your marriage. If you do, there is nothing stopping you other than yourself.




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