Arab American Dating Can At Times Be Complicated

By Peter Ellis


It is so exciting to start a new relationship, but there are a few cultures out there who don't allow it. A few communities and cultures don't want their children in relationships. Arab American Dating isn't very popular in their communities as traditions and culture don't allow for it.

In America it is a normal thing to ask someone to go on a date with them. The culture in America and just about all over the world all sees this as an important part of life. However, the Arab culture says it brings shame to them, their family and their community. Hollywood has created an image that goes against their religious values. In most of their movies and television shows, single people only go on a date with the intention of having sex at the end of the evening.

In their culture it could be seen that boys get to do what they like and date a girl. However this doesn't really apply the same when it comes to girls. Some people regard this as a sexist thing, however most families say it's to protect their daughters.

Hollywood has depicted dating where single people participate in premarital sex. These types of relations are not constant and usually indicate that partners are not fully committed to one person. Most of the time they can't stay in a relationship for long and they go from one relationship to the next.

Arab families want to protect their daughters from falling pregnant and disgracing their family. Some families have no problem when their son wants to go have sex and you will find that their parents will supply the condoms. However, when a daughter wants to have sex the parents will forbid them even from going out.

This type of culture seems to be stricter towards their daughters than towards their sons. If a son had to go to his parents and ask to go to a party, his parents would be happy with it. If a daughter had to go ask if she would be able to attend the same party, her parents would conduct an interrogation first. Her parents would begin with questions like "who will be going with you?", "who are all the people going to this party?" Her parents will give her a list of rules to follow and would tell her to come home early.

Dating in a community like this isn't a possibility at all. There are many families who want their children to rather concentrate on completing their degrees then after that they can get married. Starting a relationship while you are attending an university can be very distracting. In their community they send family counselors to come educate families why education is more important than dating.

It is their tradition and part of their culture to have arranged marriages. If you engage in other relationships prior to getting married you bring disgrace to your family. When you speak to the younger generations, they feel these traditions are old and everyone should get with the times. You will find that now Middle Eastern- American Dating is increasing and slowing more people are accepting it.




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