Why Marriage Counseling VA Does Not Work Anymore

By Anna West


Marriages that succeed are due to a blend of a number of factors. Two of the most important ones are happiness and fulfillment. Absence of these two crucial factors besides others could lead to matrimony disaster and subsequent marriage counseling VA.

A number of people assume that the only alternative once you start experiencing marriage challenges is counseling. But when you turn to matrimony counseling, the focus is on behavior, action and doing. And in fact, it's very possible that you could do all the tips, techniques and offered to you by your matrimony counselor, yet still wind up unhappy and frustrated with each other. Why?

There is no end to the ways that couples can create conflict in their relationships. And there are many reasons why couples seek matrimony counseling. All marriages are beset with difficulties at some point in the relationship. Sadly, many do not survive them, and become numbered in the divorce statistics.

Did you know that most matrimony counselors do not believe your matrimony IS valuable? Many of them have already divorced, so why would they see your matrimony as any more valuable than their own? They believe matrimony is simply expendable and that the kids will be okay. They hold the belief that not all couples are meant to be together which is why they are so quick to give up on your matrimony.

Everyone wants to strive for happiness, but our often fantasized ideal of happiness is seldom experienced in the real world. A matrimony relationship is hard work. It asks that either parties eat a humble pie and suppress their selfish priorities, not concentrate on who is right and who is wrong, but to try to find compromise, to get around the issues that divide them. Accepting the reality of a more achievable happiness requires a sensible and realistic approach, and learning to drop that insistence on being "right" is a good first step, both in matrimony and in entering matrimony therapy. Without this, all may be in vain.

Showing affection and being emotional as far as conversing, discussing issues and listening to one another goes a long way in making therapy a success. There are also some other things that have been studied that shows some situations of therapy working better for certain groups than others.

The physical and emotional separation may aggravate feeling of pain, loss, mourning and distress. Matrimony therapy can often be of great help during this period as it can help couples express emotions that have not been fully expressed, and clear the air for a new beginning as divorced people.

The reason couples end up in the offices of matrimony counselors is because they want somebody to help them do what they're not able to do... Believe their matrimony IS valuable. Talk to virtually any couple who has been to a matrimony counselor and you'll find them in agreement. But the sad truth is that most marriage counselors just don't believe matrimony itself IS valuable.




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