How To Fix Relationship Turmoil

By Roger Kelly


Life can surely be understood backwards, but there is no other way but living it forwards. So, no matter what hindrances one would encounter, always remember that life will never cease to give you a chance and they call it tomorrow. In whatever path you take, there are only two outcome, either you win or learn.

In a relationship, there are different kinds of struggles. One is struggling with intimacy. It all starts from simple physical attraction. Then you start feeling that you almost cannot take away the person from your thoughts. After which, you start to show some effort and it becomes the reflection of your interest towards that specific somebody.

The courtship stage is influenced by a lot of things. One example is with culture, there are cultures that have unified processes in courtship. Some are plainly arranged marriages, the kind that are already arranged by parents even before one knows about it.

In this modern generation, one will have the courage to ask for the other persons digits or contact information. They then exchange messages from normal conversations to admission of feeling. It is such a cliche but admit it, you would not normally respond and invest time if you are not interested with the person, in the first place. Then, they become official. They mark a label to their relationship.

The moment one enters a relationship, the couple would then start to work things out together. The very first requirement is time. They become a part of your normal daily routine. They are the first person to think of the moment you wake up and sometimes all throughout the day till one falls asleep. The person you want to share meals with. That someone you almost cannot live without anymore. Your world simply starts to change and literally revolves around that person only.

This results to a third party relationship which is probably the worst case scenario. Not only is this not ideal but this is also morally incorrect. It is better to work on the relationship than to try to find a new partner since these problems will occur over and over again.

Reviving a relationship takes a lot of patience and courage for both sides. In order to fix the problem, each party must be able to recognize and accept their faults in order to forgive each other and give themselves a second chance at their relationship. Both parties need to realize that there is no such thing as a perfect relationship, but the key to having a great relationship is to just treat each other like it they are still in the early stage of their relationship, back when patience and love rules above all negative feelings.

The moment one becomes fully aware that its existing relationship is now shaky and on the rocks, they try educate their selves and incorporate in their minds that what they are feeling is already wrong. They start to slap their own selves with the idea of loyalty. Feeling sympathy towards their partner is normal, they sure become guilty as if falling out of love is a crime. Yes it is unfair, but questions like, how can it be wrong when it feels so right stands on the side.

Till one needs to finally decide that it is time to let go. You cannot be unfair forever, might as well, break it to them no matter how much it will hurt them rather than imprison them in a lie. Whether you hurt them now or tomorrow is definitely the same heartache. What matters most, if you cannot anymore save the relationship, at least save the friendship. Love is no easy journey. Hence, it is the humps and bumps that you encounter together that will make the ride worthwhile.




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