Principles For Dating Muslims To Follow

By Ann Turner


Islam has a very elaborate guide on courtship and marriage. Dating Muslims are required to follow the guide, whether they met online or in the real world. There is punishment if you fail to observe these rules. Beyond being punished by the community, you will face the wrath of Allah, one whose punishment is severe.

Islam recognizes that people fall in love. In fact, religious teachings encourage people to love each other and also extend the love to all creations. The principles used during courtship are designed to protect the persons involved from hurt and the society from broken or dysfunctional marriages. This is why the Quran remains the central point of focus in every facet of the relationship, engagement, premarital sex and marriage.

The Quran does not restrict partners or a couple on where they should meet or who to fall in love with. These restrictions were prominent in traditional societies because people lived together. Courtship was easier because families knew the behaviors and characters of others through close monitoring. Courtships would also happen in full glare of everyone.

As people disperse and people desire to make personal decisions on marriage, online dating takes root. It is embraced because people no longer live in exclusive societies. It also gives people an opportunity meet partners from other countries or cities. This is not a reason to break any of the courtship rules. Meetings that have their genesis on the internet must also remain within the principles set in the Quran.

The principle rule of courtship is that the partners must never be found in the same room or space without a chaperon. This seclusion is deemed dangerous because it exposes the couple to temptations of sexual engagement. When you meet online, a person must not tempt you into getting into private space. This will compromise personal integrity, leaving you hurt and destroying your courtship.

Chaperon was responsible for supervising the courtship process in the traditional society. Where this is impossible, group activities are encouraged. Gather friends, age mates or even join families during gatherings. You are not even allowed to exchange a kiss until you get married. If the family learns that you have engaged in any of the prohibited activities, you will be sanctioned. The engagement might be broken for that reason.

Halal dating is the new version that is approved by clerics around the world. You are allowed to keep in contact with your target partner through the phone or via the internet. Even introduction by parents and relatives is allowed. Once you feel compatible and decide to spend your life together, you will sign a nikah, a contract that is just as binding as the marriage certificate.

Dating in Islam must not be mistaken for lack of personal will or emotions. You have an opportunity to love a Muslim whether you follow the Islam religion or not. With Halal dating, you have time and the space to develop an understanding and later commit to marrying each other to live happily ever after.




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