It's likely to happen. Sometimes you can't do anything to stop it. There are bound to be a few disagreements when a pair of individual people come together. But it's totally natural. But we know it's hard to get over a fight when you are so far apart, so we've outlined a few suggestions below to help you through the situation.
While In The Argument
Think About What You Say Before You Say It
Often when people get into a heavy fight they completely lose control and they occasionally say stuff to one another that they wouldn't even dream of saying in a regular conversation. We realize you might be angry. And sometimes it may be their fault entirely. But remember to pick your words carefully. Be sure to take some long deep breaths and think it over before saying anything. This can help to guard your lovers feelings and is sure to speed up the making-up process.
Use Limited Contact Until Your Tensions Have Levelled Out
It isn't going to do any good talking to your partner until you have calmed down. The best idea is to stop all conversations until your feelings are settled and you are ready to make up with each other. No Skype. No text messages. No phone calls.
After The Argument
Forget About Placing The Blame
It's not about who's to blame for the argument. It's about the cause of the disagreement. If you disagree about something that they don't really like about you, then maybe it's time to change that something they don't like. A lot of people have an, "I can't change for anybody" attitude in a relationship. Take it from us, the ones that can and do change are the ones that have a stronger relationship with one another.
Remember That You Are A Team
As you grow closer together, you have to learn to make decisions together. The decisions that will determine your future. You are both in the relationship because you love each other, and you both want to achieve the same positive end result. Just remember that you are each on the same side.
Send An Apology Letter
A nice gesture after you have made up is to write your companion a letter explaining that you are sorry for hurting their feelings. Let your partner know that you don't want to argue anymore, but make sure to let your feelings be known about the issues. You should send a gift along with it, or a picture that will help to remind them of a happy time you spent with each other.
While In The Argument
Think About What You Say Before You Say It
Often when people get into a heavy fight they completely lose control and they occasionally say stuff to one another that they wouldn't even dream of saying in a regular conversation. We realize you might be angry. And sometimes it may be their fault entirely. But remember to pick your words carefully. Be sure to take some long deep breaths and think it over before saying anything. This can help to guard your lovers feelings and is sure to speed up the making-up process.
Use Limited Contact Until Your Tensions Have Levelled Out
It isn't going to do any good talking to your partner until you have calmed down. The best idea is to stop all conversations until your feelings are settled and you are ready to make up with each other. No Skype. No text messages. No phone calls.
After The Argument
Forget About Placing The Blame
It's not about who's to blame for the argument. It's about the cause of the disagreement. If you disagree about something that they don't really like about you, then maybe it's time to change that something they don't like. A lot of people have an, "I can't change for anybody" attitude in a relationship. Take it from us, the ones that can and do change are the ones that have a stronger relationship with one another.
Remember That You Are A Team
As you grow closer together, you have to learn to make decisions together. The decisions that will determine your future. You are both in the relationship because you love each other, and you both want to achieve the same positive end result. Just remember that you are each on the same side.
Send An Apology Letter
A nice gesture after you have made up is to write your companion a letter explaining that you are sorry for hurting their feelings. Let your partner know that you don't want to argue anymore, but make sure to let your feelings be known about the issues. You should send a gift along with it, or a picture that will help to remind them of a happy time you spent with each other.
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