How To Know If Your Marriage Needs Relationship Help?

By Reynaldo Fuentes


Few marriages are perfect and have never needed any form of help to maintain. Marriages that don't have good relationships are likely the ones that won't last. If they do last, the couple aren't usually happy and they are more likely to fail.

You might be asking yourself, what is the difference between a relationship and a marriage? A marriage is the bond that is formed in holy matrimony between two people. In the eyes of the law and man they are one. They can only be separated by divorce or death.

In a relationship, you have a friendship that you likely began well before marriage and you will continue to grow and deepen your friendship as long as time goes on. Ideally, this began before you even tied the knot.

If you're hearing cues from others that you need help, your marriage likely does. For instance, do you go to functions without your spouse? If so, how often? Do you make excuses for him or her? Are they true reasons or are you just being polite?

When you are spending time together, you constantly complain about different petty annoyances and are always criticizing each other. Or sometimes it goes to the other extreme. You may be in the same room but never speak to one another. It doesn't matter what the other is talking about or does, it is uninteresting and boring.

More signs of a relationship in decline are lack of interest in the bedroom. While both of you may be young and attractive, the spark has gone out and one of you may even fantasize about others.

There is no more affection, no kisses, no hugs and no "I Love You" being said to each other. We're human folks, we all need these things. You have a serious problem and you need to fix this or move on.

If carried to the extremes, your partner can really be turned off by jealousy. The jealous person might withdraw from intimacy because they think their partner has been unfaithful. The accused person might also hold back on their feelings because they are tired of all the jealous questions and constant badgering.

Avoid exaggeration and establish some ground rules. If jealousy is still an issue, seek help immediately. If your relationship is going to survive, you must curtail jealousy.

Debt is another culprit that is responsible for relationship issues. Not having money can be serious. If one partner overspends constantly, it can cause a huge rift in the relationship.

On the other hand, if either one or both spouse spends too much money or are living way above their means, they will surely end up drowning in debt. It follows that the relationship will start to sink as well. Debt literally can drain all of the life blood out of a relationship that was once very loving.

Marriages suffer frequently when things like this occur. Conflicts and disagreements soon become the norm. It's good to stop and do inventory on occasion and see how things are really going between the two of you. Make the required adjustments and continue on in your life. You will see a huge difference and the relationship will become much stronger in the end.




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