Continuous Restlessness Among Relationships In Families

By Jeffrey Jones


Earlier marriages used to be arranged by the family members. Departing after marriage was considered to be a taboo in the society. Due to this the couple learnt to live in disagreement and unhappiness throughout their life. People were not aware of the reasons behind separation. Today therapists have identified the divorce warning signs.

When couples see a smile or hears beautiful words or feels the touch, the sensory organs report to the brain and it sends feedback to the heart about the feeling. This is how people fall in love. This grows and matures only on trust and respect. This is a law of attraction to give in abundance and getting back the same in return.

Countries which have arranged marriage in practice the divorce rate is low because the family and society come together to solve the problem. Modernization is one among many reasons for separation. Due to this more freedom and money is available with people to ignore others sentiments and values.

Violence is not a social behavior. This is a psychological problem. Showing aggression against our loved ones does not bring peace or try to solve the issue. This actually makes matter worst. A decision taken in anger is never appropriate. A couple should openly communicate to each other for any disagreement which will help in improving the relationship. Reasons are many, why couples choose to separate is the changes in life like redundancy, retirement, bereavement, abandoning of one partner, children leaving home, violence, sexual abuse etc.

Children are another group mostly affected by problems within the family. Dealing with the issues of their parents is very difficult for them. Divorce strains parents and child relationship, create economic hardships, psychological and behavioral troubles. This affects the studies and upbringing of the kids.

Issues start erupting one by one and finally it can lead to violence and divorce. So it can be said that financial pressure is cited one of the big reasons for separation. People with more money can outsource their hard tasks to others and have a good and happy living where as a person with less income has to do the entire tedious household chores and life is not so happy.

Younger couples might think of leaving their responsibilities to their partners and opt to take a stress free life. Debt is another big reason for marital issues which fuels to separation. Overdue relate to poverty and as couples do not pay their dues and goes for taking new loans, the marital happiness ends and this is a start of problems in their relationship.

Counseling is usually done on behalf of court to make the couples aware of their acts and their after effects. The impact on their children and family, societal issues, adjusting with the feelings associated with divorce etc. The counseling also helps them to understand each others issues and gives an opportunity to fix problem leading to a good marital life.

When couples experience warning signs in their life it is important that necessary steps be taken to save their relationship. Couples who find it unable to sort their issues should try to get assistance from third parties or their friends or other family members or even social counselors as a last resort.




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