Emotional Intimacy And Its Importance In A Lasting Relationship
One of the major factors for a successful and a truly loving
romantic relationship is intimacy. When you hear the word, the image
that usually comes to mind is physical intimacy. Yes, although passion
and physical touch is indeed one of the major factors of a successful
relationship, emotional intimacy takes more than just being physically
involved with your partner.
When you first started to get to know each other, how did you become close? Aside from the physical, what made you feel close and secure with that person? It's usually the conversations and the private talks you had that made you form that attachment. That was the moment when you realized that this person is important and special to you, since he or she made you feel emotionally secure.
But when you're in a marriage or a long-term relationship, you sometimes forget about this. You take your partner for granted because of those feelings of security. Just because you've already established emotional intimacy during your courtship stage, it doesn't mean it ends there. There are three factors in a successful relationship: intimacy, passion, and commitment. If any of these are lacking, trouble and problems may arise. So emotional intimacy is something that should be present whether you're just starting out your relationship or even when you're married with children. So how do you do this?
First is to define what emotional intimacy really is. You feel emotionally intimate with someone when you share your thoughts and feelings without fear of being judged or rejected. It is the total acceptance of who you are by the person with whom you're sharing your emotions with. You feel a sense of peace and security that the person accepts you and that he or she is someone you can run to when you are in emotional distress. But another important factor is that for you to completely achieve emotional intimacy, you have to accept yourself, too.
Here are some things that you can do to regain that emotional intimacy with your loved one. First is spend quality time together. When you do this, make time to talk about your feelings. Do not think about the house, or your work or responsibilities. Take this time to express the things that you've always wanted to talk to your partner about. Second is to listen actively. Emotional intimacy is not a one-way street. Allow your partner to share his own thoughts, too. Third, when you respond, be sincere and transparent without hurting the other person's feelings. Remember, emotional intimacy is about acceptance, so do not judge. And fourth, accept the person for who he or she is, despite their flaws and weaknesses.
Emotional Intimacy is one of the best gifts you can give to yourself and your partner. So if your relationship is lacking in this area, then it is time for you to make an effort to work on it.
When you first started to get to know each other, how did you become close? Aside from the physical, what made you feel close and secure with that person? It's usually the conversations and the private talks you had that made you form that attachment. That was the moment when you realized that this person is important and special to you, since he or she made you feel emotionally secure.
But when you're in a marriage or a long-term relationship, you sometimes forget about this. You take your partner for granted because of those feelings of security. Just because you've already established emotional intimacy during your courtship stage, it doesn't mean it ends there. There are three factors in a successful relationship: intimacy, passion, and commitment. If any of these are lacking, trouble and problems may arise. So emotional intimacy is something that should be present whether you're just starting out your relationship or even when you're married with children. So how do you do this?
First is to define what emotional intimacy really is. You feel emotionally intimate with someone when you share your thoughts and feelings without fear of being judged or rejected. It is the total acceptance of who you are by the person with whom you're sharing your emotions with. You feel a sense of peace and security that the person accepts you and that he or she is someone you can run to when you are in emotional distress. But another important factor is that for you to completely achieve emotional intimacy, you have to accept yourself, too.
Here are some things that you can do to regain that emotional intimacy with your loved one. First is spend quality time together. When you do this, make time to talk about your feelings. Do not think about the house, or your work or responsibilities. Take this time to express the things that you've always wanted to talk to your partner about. Second is to listen actively. Emotional intimacy is not a one-way street. Allow your partner to share his own thoughts, too. Third, when you respond, be sincere and transparent without hurting the other person's feelings. Remember, emotional intimacy is about acceptance, so do not judge. And fourth, accept the person for who he or she is, despite their flaws and weaknesses.
Emotional Intimacy is one of the best gifts you can give to yourself and your partner. So if your relationship is lacking in this area, then it is time for you to make an effort to work on it.
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