Meeting that special person can be exhilarating and as time goes on you feel that special soul mate connection is really there. As time goes on, you feel that maybe this is the man you will have a very long committed relationship with. You then bring up the subject about where this is all going and he is without words. That sick feeling takes over and you wonder if maybe he will eventually be in the same emotional place as you are.
Men are heavily influenced by your acceptance or rejection and he wasn't anticipating you to be the one to bring commitment up. He might be the type who just hasn't thought about it yet or hasn't opened up to you even though he has been thinking about it for quite some time. He doesn't know if you will accept or reject him which could be the main cause of the reason for him not bringing it up. Below are some tips that will help you put that magical spell on him to take the relationship to the next step.
1. Stressed out - Be sure that when you are ready to pop the question about commitment, that neither of you are under stress at the time.
2. Be aware of your body language - Nothing tells all like bad body language. Your body language has so much information in it that you may not be aware of. Folded arms across your chest suggests 'closed' and defensive.
3. Be honest - Now that you have brought it up and he's responding like a deer in the headlights, it is time for you to let him digest the issue. It is also time to really be honest with him about how you feel in the relationship with him. This is when he may really start to open up and be truthful about what he fears most about commitment. It could be that he was the victim in a breakup and was very hurt by it. Now is your big opportunity to make him know how much he really means to you.
4. The time is right - Even if it turns out that he is unready, unwilling or unable to give you the answer you were hoping for, at the very least, you can make a realistic decision whether to stay with things as they are or move on to find that special spiritual link that your heart calls for.
Your biggest fear at this point may be rejection if he says "No" or isn't really ready yet. On the other hand, when your future is at stake and he says "Yes", the magic will return to you as you vow to be committed to each other. The feelings you will have cannot be matched when you have found your future and commitment, because it truly is like magic.
Men are heavily influenced by your acceptance or rejection and he wasn't anticipating you to be the one to bring commitment up. He might be the type who just hasn't thought about it yet or hasn't opened up to you even though he has been thinking about it for quite some time. He doesn't know if you will accept or reject him which could be the main cause of the reason for him not bringing it up. Below are some tips that will help you put that magical spell on him to take the relationship to the next step.
1. Stressed out - Be sure that when you are ready to pop the question about commitment, that neither of you are under stress at the time.
2. Be aware of your body language - Nothing tells all like bad body language. Your body language has so much information in it that you may not be aware of. Folded arms across your chest suggests 'closed' and defensive.
3. Be honest - Now that you have brought it up and he's responding like a deer in the headlights, it is time for you to let him digest the issue. It is also time to really be honest with him about how you feel in the relationship with him. This is when he may really start to open up and be truthful about what he fears most about commitment. It could be that he was the victim in a breakup and was very hurt by it. Now is your big opportunity to make him know how much he really means to you.
4. The time is right - Even if it turns out that he is unready, unwilling or unable to give you the answer you were hoping for, at the very least, you can make a realistic decision whether to stay with things as they are or move on to find that special spiritual link that your heart calls for.
Your biggest fear at this point may be rejection if he says "No" or isn't really ready yet. On the other hand, when your future is at stake and he says "Yes", the magic will return to you as you vow to be committed to each other. The feelings you will have cannot be matched when you have found your future and commitment, because it truly is like magic.
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