Wanting to get back together with your ex girlfriend or your wife is a simple issue of mind over matter. You will find that your attitude has more to do with your success in your relationship with the woman of your dreams than anything else. While a woman might hear your words fine, she will judge you by your actions. You goal should be to show her with your actions that you are strong, fun to be around and the best man for her. You are confident and you need to instill a feeling of security in her when she is with you.
A breakup can be a very emotional experience. If you have been emotional after your breakup it means that you really do care for your ex but behaving emotionally can be a turn off for the woman that you love. While your ex may have given you a list of reasons why she was leaving you, the real reason is something entirely different. The actual reason why she decided to break up with you has to do with how she views you as a man. If you have cried, begged or pleaded with her before, during or after the break up then it is her lack of respect for you as a man that led to your failed relationship. In order for you to change her perception of you she must never see this kind of behavior from you again. You might think that she will be moved by how much you love her but the opposite is true. A woman views these tactics or this kind of outpouring of emotion as a sign of weakness and manipulation. You must be strong and confident in all your dealings with your ex and things will begin to change.
Your attitude towards your ex girlfriend or your wife is everything. Although this may sound difficult for you, having the attitude that you are willing to simply walk away is how you must be perceived. If you see her and she starts to yell at you or act disrespectful towards you, simply walk away. She is not a part of your life anymore. She is not your girlfriend or your wife and you will not tolerate this kind of treatment from her. Tell her so, turn your back to her and walk away. You might be surprised that she will come running after you. It happens and if she is accustomed to you standing there and taking her abuse then this will be a huge change for her. She will respect you for this and she will begin to see you differently.
Being cool and calm in the face of adversity and reigning in your emotions is important. Resist the temptation to argue with her or show any sign that you're still upset about the break up. Your new attitude must be positive and optimistic. Your new life is filled with possibilities. You are happy and looking forward to what life has in store for you. You are in the process of rebuilding your life. You have a direction and you have goals and dreams for what you wish to accomplish in life. You might even feel happy about the freedom that this break up has given you. No matter what, you are happy because women find men that are happy and optimistic about life very attractive. If you find yourself confronted with negative emotions or you become upset over something, remember that you must be happy at all costs. If you feel completely overwhelmed, find a place where you can be alone for five minutes to regain your composure. Tell yourself that things will change and that your life is getting better and better all the time. Remind yourself that you must appear happy and in control at all times. Men are capable of such strength and you are a real man.
Regaining control in your relationship is very important. Many women will test you or attempt to control everything in the relationship. Was your ex this way when you were together? Does she still try to control things in your life by making suggestions or injecting her thoughts on all aspects of your life? This is why a woman will ask a man to make a decision about what restaurant they should go to and then get upset when he says that he doesn't care. She wants you to take control and make the decisions and she will lose respect for you when you give up that control. To remedy this situation, don't allow her to make decisions in your life. If she tries to decide where you will meet, make alternate plans simply to overturn her decision and take control of the situation. Don't worry if she becomes upset or angry. Taking control back from a woman can be frustrating for her but it is what she needs. She will rebel but her temper tantrum will pass quickly and eventually you will see that she respects you more and becomes more submissive to your suggestions. She will look to you for guidance and this is the path to getting back together with her.
Your self-confidence is the cornerstone of your success in any aspect of your life. Your ability to believe in yourself and what you can achieve will determine how hard you try and whether you give up on yourself. How can you expect a woman to love you if you don't have the same love and confidence in yourself? Your self-confidence or self-esteem is evident in how you handle yourself in all situations. Your ex will be able to see it in how you stand, your facial expression, the look in your eyes and your body language as a whole. If you are worried, scared, nervous or doubtful about anything, especially your ability to win your girlfriend or wife back, she will be able to see it in your body language. Work on your self-esteem every day. Work on your self-confidence the same way that you would work on any muscle group in your body. Spend some time telling yourself positive and optimistic things. Make a list of your redeeming qualities and stop comparing yourself to other men. In your world, you are the best and most important person. Without you, life ceases to exist in your world. Take care of yourself first so you can care for others such as the woman you love. Let that feeling be evident in how you walk, talk, stand, sit, smile, laugh and even chew bubble gum. Confidence and high self-esteem is very attractive to women and your ex is a woman so make it happen.
Being in love isn't easy. Often genuinely nice guys make the mistake of thinking that by treating a woman well and doing everything that she asks, she will fall in love with us. We want to show our love by putting her first. We care for her more than we do our own body. For us, this equals true love. For a woman, instinctively, this is a sign of weakness. Putting yourself first and being strong is the only way to regain the respect and love that the woman of your dreams had for you. Avoid the temptation to go back to groveling or begging her for another chance. Push forward and understand that you have nothing to lose by standing up for yourself in a passive-aggressive manner. You don't have to be mean. You don't have to argue with her. You simply have to be the man that she loves and respects. Be happy and full of optimism and things will begin to change. Her feelings for you will begin to change. She will wonder what is going on with you. She will become curious and soon you will find that she has a renewed respect and love for you. You are worthy of being loved and respected and you will get your ex girlfriend or wife back.
A breakup can be a very emotional experience. If you have been emotional after your breakup it means that you really do care for your ex but behaving emotionally can be a turn off for the woman that you love. While your ex may have given you a list of reasons why she was leaving you, the real reason is something entirely different. The actual reason why she decided to break up with you has to do with how she views you as a man. If you have cried, begged or pleaded with her before, during or after the break up then it is her lack of respect for you as a man that led to your failed relationship. In order for you to change her perception of you she must never see this kind of behavior from you again. You might think that she will be moved by how much you love her but the opposite is true. A woman views these tactics or this kind of outpouring of emotion as a sign of weakness and manipulation. You must be strong and confident in all your dealings with your ex and things will begin to change.
Your attitude towards your ex girlfriend or your wife is everything. Although this may sound difficult for you, having the attitude that you are willing to simply walk away is how you must be perceived. If you see her and she starts to yell at you or act disrespectful towards you, simply walk away. She is not a part of your life anymore. She is not your girlfriend or your wife and you will not tolerate this kind of treatment from her. Tell her so, turn your back to her and walk away. You might be surprised that she will come running after you. It happens and if she is accustomed to you standing there and taking her abuse then this will be a huge change for her. She will respect you for this and she will begin to see you differently.
Being cool and calm in the face of adversity and reigning in your emotions is important. Resist the temptation to argue with her or show any sign that you're still upset about the break up. Your new attitude must be positive and optimistic. Your new life is filled with possibilities. You are happy and looking forward to what life has in store for you. You are in the process of rebuilding your life. You have a direction and you have goals and dreams for what you wish to accomplish in life. You might even feel happy about the freedom that this break up has given you. No matter what, you are happy because women find men that are happy and optimistic about life very attractive. If you find yourself confronted with negative emotions or you become upset over something, remember that you must be happy at all costs. If you feel completely overwhelmed, find a place where you can be alone for five minutes to regain your composure. Tell yourself that things will change and that your life is getting better and better all the time. Remind yourself that you must appear happy and in control at all times. Men are capable of such strength and you are a real man.
Regaining control in your relationship is very important. Many women will test you or attempt to control everything in the relationship. Was your ex this way when you were together? Does she still try to control things in your life by making suggestions or injecting her thoughts on all aspects of your life? This is why a woman will ask a man to make a decision about what restaurant they should go to and then get upset when he says that he doesn't care. She wants you to take control and make the decisions and she will lose respect for you when you give up that control. To remedy this situation, don't allow her to make decisions in your life. If she tries to decide where you will meet, make alternate plans simply to overturn her decision and take control of the situation. Don't worry if she becomes upset or angry. Taking control back from a woman can be frustrating for her but it is what she needs. She will rebel but her temper tantrum will pass quickly and eventually you will see that she respects you more and becomes more submissive to your suggestions. She will look to you for guidance and this is the path to getting back together with her.
Your self-confidence is the cornerstone of your success in any aspect of your life. Your ability to believe in yourself and what you can achieve will determine how hard you try and whether you give up on yourself. How can you expect a woman to love you if you don't have the same love and confidence in yourself? Your self-confidence or self-esteem is evident in how you handle yourself in all situations. Your ex will be able to see it in how you stand, your facial expression, the look in your eyes and your body language as a whole. If you are worried, scared, nervous or doubtful about anything, especially your ability to win your girlfriend or wife back, she will be able to see it in your body language. Work on your self-esteem every day. Work on your self-confidence the same way that you would work on any muscle group in your body. Spend some time telling yourself positive and optimistic things. Make a list of your redeeming qualities and stop comparing yourself to other men. In your world, you are the best and most important person. Without you, life ceases to exist in your world. Take care of yourself first so you can care for others such as the woman you love. Let that feeling be evident in how you walk, talk, stand, sit, smile, laugh and even chew bubble gum. Confidence and high self-esteem is very attractive to women and your ex is a woman so make it happen.
Being in love isn't easy. Often genuinely nice guys make the mistake of thinking that by treating a woman well and doing everything that she asks, she will fall in love with us. We want to show our love by putting her first. We care for her more than we do our own body. For us, this equals true love. For a woman, instinctively, this is a sign of weakness. Putting yourself first and being strong is the only way to regain the respect and love that the woman of your dreams had for you. Avoid the temptation to go back to groveling or begging her for another chance. Push forward and understand that you have nothing to lose by standing up for yourself in a passive-aggressive manner. You don't have to be mean. You don't have to argue with her. You simply have to be the man that she loves and respects. Be happy and full of optimism and things will begin to change. Her feelings for you will begin to change. She will wonder what is going on with you. She will become curious and soon you will find that she has a renewed respect and love for you. You are worthy of being loved and respected and you will get your ex girlfriend or wife back.
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