Women
test men all the time. Even if none of men like this, we all know that we can't
live without them. So, hating women or trying to live without them is not
viable solution. The best thing we can do is to accept that they do and will
test us.
''The
test'' is that unexpected, unexplained, quirky situation inflicted on a man by
a woman in a relationship. Women love to test men by throwing obscure
theoretical questions, and especially to judge them. They usually like to test
men, who are interested in, for whom they feel some attraction. They try to
tell things about men by observing certain aspects of their behavior, or
telling them things and judging them according on how they react.
Women
test men because they need to quickly figure out what they're dealing with, and
they can't expect a man to be straight up and honest about his strengths and
weakness. Women are attention-seekers in constant need of reassurance and
affirmation that someone cares for them and wants to protect them. They need to
know that you'll set limits that you'll stand up for yourself, this making them
feel safe. It gives them the reassurance
that you are strong enough and confident enough to fight back when you are
provoked and that you are capable of protecting them from danger.
They
test us to see how strong emotionally we are, how smart we are, or enjoy to
make men feel uncomfortable. So, even if she has a high interest in you, even
she is always sweet, loving and giving person, she will always feel the need
dig any question. A healthier attitude is to love and enjoy women for all their
great qualities, while learning to deal with their tests.
But,
from where you can know when you are tested? First you should ask yourself if
the event makes sense in the context of the situation; if the answer is no,
then you are probably being tested. How they do this? Here are some examples:
-she
likes to flirt with another man in front of you – the best thing you can do is
to ignore it when it happens; you can start by chatting evenings with other
women or friends of her; this will cool her off, and she will change this habit
-she
cancel your meeting in the last minute- this is very disappointing because you
are ready to walk out the door and only then she tells you she is not coming
anymore; you can prevent this from the beginning by telling her that you hate
girls which cancel dates; but sometimes she may have a good reason to cancel
the meeting
-she
likes to turn you on while making out, just to see if you respect her ; best
you can do is to stay calm, relax, don't sulk or push it; if she sees you are
cool about it and you aren't stressed, you will see that she'll likely relaxed
and you have pass the test;
-also
there are times when women confuse men , act evasive and feign disinterest in order to try to communicate to men,
because they don't like to be taken for granted, being scared to not have their
heart broken by a man.
There
are times when a woman is testing you intentionally or unintentionally. When
she makes it intentionally she will do or say something as an attempt to bait
man into reacting to her; she wants to find out if you have a strong reality
and identity; she might be acting like ignoring you, teasing you about a flaw
you have, trying to make you jealous and so on. So use your own discretion and
don't react to her too quickly. She might test you unintentionally, but your
reactions will be judged; she has desire to be validated for her beauty and a
yearning for the rush to chasing a man who is a prize; so you have to show her
you have a strong reality and identity, to not validate her too much so that
she'll be satisfied; give her just enough to keep her waiting, reaching and
chasing you for more of it.
Now
you know that any woman will test you. All you have to do is to accept that,
and learn how to deal with. For dealing with any type of test you have to have
the necessary tools; if you have these, you may use all these tests to your
advantage.
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