Many
people find it stressful to go on a first date. You feel under pressure to
impress, you feel that you are under scrutiny and your faults will be exposed,
you feel that some chance remark you make could be enough to ruin the entire
evening. The effect of all these things can be greatly reduced by boosting your
confidence. If you give out self confidence, this will be more attractive to your
date and you'll enjoy the evening more. So how can you make yourself more
confident?
Having
confidence is just a state of mind, and it's more a matter of what
"stories" you're telling yourself than it is about any good qualities
or skills you might have. By this I mean that you keep telling yourself you are
one of those people that are always the centre of attention. You know the type
- the person that everyone is looking at and that everyone wants to talk to. If
you tell yourself you are that kind of person then you are more likely to
become that kind of person. So picture yourself as a confident person, work on
keeping that mental image of yourself at all times.
Remember
that it's only a date after all. It's not a matter of life or death. It won't
decide the whole rest of your life, unless you end up marrying the person
you're
going on the date with! So just enjoy the date for what it is, and keep telling
yourself that's what you're there to do. This kind of thinking can take a lot
of pressure off you, and make you seem more relaxed, which in turn will make
you more attractive.
Tell
the truth. Ther's no point in trying to pretend you are someone you're not or
that you can do things you can't really do. For one thing it's hard work
remembering what you've said when you made things up. Also, if you go out on
another date with that person, eventually they're going to find out that you
didn't tell the truth. This can be awkward at the very least and might lead to
the loss of a potentially nice relationship. So just be yourself.
Of
course, you want to play up your strengths and play down any weaknesses you
might have. That's only natural. But don't do that at the expense of telling
the truth. here is a difference. Your date will almost certainly be trying to
highlight their own good points as well, that's just one of the rules of the
dating game.
If
you tell yourself that you are a special person, and an attractive person, and
you talk yourself into confidence in yourself, it's more likely than not that
your date will have confidence in you too.
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