How To Approach Any Girl Without Rejection
Most guys freeze up when it comes time to approach a girl. They
look over, get some positive contact, maybe a few other gestures, or
indicators of interest, and then freeze. Sure, it's a small step from
looking at a girl passively to engaging in some safe, eye contact
flirting.
But actually walking over, speaking to her? Yikes!
However, here's a way that will help. It's a trick car salesmen use to get people inside. It's kind of the same thing. Walking up to a person on the car lot and talking to them about stuff is pretty easy. But asking them to come inside is difficult, because everybody knows what that means. It means you're going to sit down and try and sell them a car.
But some car salesmen have learned a sneaky way to get them inside without any pressure. It goes like this. They are talking to the customer on the lot, and they get a sense that it's time to "close" so to speak. So they say something like this:
"Well, Mr. Customer, obviously you need to think about this. Before you leave, let me give you my card, here, follow me, I have some inside."
So before you ask them to come inside, you basically tell them they're off the hook.
How does this work with approaching? When you start walking over to the girl, she knows what you're up to. At the very least, you're going to ask for her number. This puts pressure on her, and on you. After all, it's one thing to flirt with a guy across the room, but what if he has really bad breath, or a squeaky voice, or doesn't even speak English?
Here's what you do.
In the very first sentence, you let her know that you aren't going to ask for her number. This will make her feel relieved, and relaxed, so you can talk to her like normal. Of course, during this "normal" conversation, if you think she's nice, ask her for her phone number anyway.
If she likes you, she'll want you to ask, even though you said you weren't going to.
When you first approach, you'll have to think of a reason to talk to her, other than just to say she's pretty and you think you're falling in love with her.
Maybe she reminds you of somebody, or maybe you thought you two had a class together or something. Figure out what it is, and then say this:
"Hey, don't worry, I'm not going to ask for your number or anything, I just wanted to ask you... "
Then spring the reason you walked over. Then you can relax, and enjoy a natural conversation. And if you seem to enjoy each other's company, she'll be eager to give you her number.
But actually walking over, speaking to her? Yikes!
However, here's a way that will help. It's a trick car salesmen use to get people inside. It's kind of the same thing. Walking up to a person on the car lot and talking to them about stuff is pretty easy. But asking them to come inside is difficult, because everybody knows what that means. It means you're going to sit down and try and sell them a car.
But some car salesmen have learned a sneaky way to get them inside without any pressure. It goes like this. They are talking to the customer on the lot, and they get a sense that it's time to "close" so to speak. So they say something like this:
"Well, Mr. Customer, obviously you need to think about this. Before you leave, let me give you my card, here, follow me, I have some inside."
So before you ask them to come inside, you basically tell them they're off the hook.
How does this work with approaching? When you start walking over to the girl, she knows what you're up to. At the very least, you're going to ask for her number. This puts pressure on her, and on you. After all, it's one thing to flirt with a guy across the room, but what if he has really bad breath, or a squeaky voice, or doesn't even speak English?
Here's what you do.
In the very first sentence, you let her know that you aren't going to ask for her number. This will make her feel relieved, and relaxed, so you can talk to her like normal. Of course, during this "normal" conversation, if you think she's nice, ask her for her phone number anyway.
If she likes you, she'll want you to ask, even though you said you weren't going to.
When you first approach, you'll have to think of a reason to talk to her, other than just to say she's pretty and you think you're falling in love with her.
Maybe she reminds you of somebody, or maybe you thought you two had a class together or something. Figure out what it is, and then say this:
"Hey, don't worry, I'm not going to ask for your number or anything, I just wanted to ask you... "
Then spring the reason you walked over. Then you can relax, and enjoy a natural conversation. And if you seem to enjoy each other's company, she'll be eager to give you her number.
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