From Best Friends to Lovers: A How-To
Is your closest friend a man? Have you spent hours upon countless
hours together having fun and getting to know one another? Having a guy
as your best friend can be one of the greatest things in the world.
Especially if you need advice on men! But what are you to do when you
start developing feelings for your friend? It can be a scary situation.
Your bond is already so strong and the two of you are so close that it
seems natural to have romantic feelings arise. That said, you've
inevitably considered the risks: that you may lose him as a friend if
things go awry.
When you initially realize your feelings for him are intensifying, don't act crazy. Enjoy your platonic relationship as it is and put effort into strengthening the bond between you. Spend more time with him and make sure that you are a wanted and needed part of his life. Don't push the issue of anything romantic, as it may scare him off.
The next step is to make him realize that you have the potential to be more than "just a friend." This can present some level of difficulty, because it's likely that he hasn't been looking at you as a possible girlfriend. You have to open his eyes to the reality that you are still a woman and appeal to him from that angle. Dress up when you know you're going to be spending time with him. Invite him to spend more time alone with you instead of just with your social circle. Small steps like this will help suggest that you're interested in something more.
Once you've made progress, it's time to start flirting a little. Use your assets the way you would with any other man whose attention you're trying to catch. Touch him more often and express affection. Let your hands graze him more often, make eye contact, even directly hint at romance or sex. If he's interested in you romantically, he will pick up on your advances.
If it seems like he's not responding at all, it could be one of two scenarios. Either he's an idiot, and you'll have to be more direct with your advances, or he's not interested in you outside of the platonic realm. If it is the latter, tread with caution lest you risk losing a close friend. If you're really confused, ask one of his trusted guy friends to do some investigating for you. Hopefully he can give you some insight as to whether or not your friend is looking for something more, as well.
When you initially realize your feelings for him are intensifying, don't act crazy. Enjoy your platonic relationship as it is and put effort into strengthening the bond between you. Spend more time with him and make sure that you are a wanted and needed part of his life. Don't push the issue of anything romantic, as it may scare him off.
The next step is to make him realize that you have the potential to be more than "just a friend." This can present some level of difficulty, because it's likely that he hasn't been looking at you as a possible girlfriend. You have to open his eyes to the reality that you are still a woman and appeal to him from that angle. Dress up when you know you're going to be spending time with him. Invite him to spend more time alone with you instead of just with your social circle. Small steps like this will help suggest that you're interested in something more.
Once you've made progress, it's time to start flirting a little. Use your assets the way you would with any other man whose attention you're trying to catch. Touch him more often and express affection. Let your hands graze him more often, make eye contact, even directly hint at romance or sex. If he's interested in you romantically, he will pick up on your advances.
If it seems like he's not responding at all, it could be one of two scenarios. Either he's an idiot, and you'll have to be more direct with your advances, or he's not interested in you outside of the platonic realm. If it is the latter, tread with caution lest you risk losing a close friend. If you're really confused, ask one of his trusted guy friends to do some investigating for you. Hopefully he can give you some insight as to whether or not your friend is looking for something more, as well.
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